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Rewards in parenting

Gianna Spiess |

The rewards debate

This article examines the debate about reward systems in parenting and references Alfie Kohn’s influential work, which describes incentives as counterproductive.

What the research shows

Research shows nuanced results:

  • External rewards can reduce enthusiasm for activities children already enjoy
  • They can be effective motivators for tasks children do not like

Recommendations for practice

When to use rewards:

  • Only when intrinsic motivation is missing
  • Not for prosocial behavior

How to use rewards:

  • Give immediate feedback
  • Use material incentives sparingly
  • Distinguish between true reward systems and attempts to bribe

Particular effectiveness for ADHD

Research shows particular effectiveness for children with ADHD, where structured reward systems can have clear positive effects.

Reframing the central question

The key insight reframes the parental question: not whether rewards should be used, but when and how they can be applied strategically.

Reference: Dr. Cara Goodwin via Parenting Translator

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